Raising Fearless Daughters
When Mike and I married we always dreamed of having a house full of wild little boys. It seemed to fit our personalities and lifestyle. We never doubted whether it was our calling or not. Mike even began reading books on raising boys years prior to our first pregnancy. Imagine our shock when the ultrasound technician during our first pregnancy told us “it’s a girl” and then the second pregnancy, “girl” and our third pregnancy… “girl.” Although the shock lessened with each pregnancy the monumental task has not.
My greatest desire for my daughters is that they would be fearless because their hope in God is stronger than anything that is frightening in this world. “For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.” (1 Peter 3:5-6) Abraham’s wife, Sarah, is given here as an example of a holy woman who hoped in God and did not fear anything that is frightening. Her adornment was her hope in God. Her hope in God allowed her to be fearless. How does hope relate to being fearless?
My hope rests securely in the fact that nothing can separate us from the love of God (Romans 8:37-38). My greatest fear has already been conquered with Jesus Christ at the cross where He took my sin, buried it with His body and rose from the dead and now stands in my judgement place reconciling me to God. I love that this verse says, “do no fear anything that is frightening.” This acknowledges that there are things in this world that are in fact frightening. Losing a child is frightening. Cancer is frightening. Global political issues are frightening. Raising children in a godless culture is frightening. Dying and leaving my children is frightening. But because of the hope that I have in God through Jesus Christ I do not have to fear. My hope is greater than my fears. He is working ALL things for my good to conform me to the image of Christ (Romans 8:28-29)
So then the question becomes, “Do I believe that He is good?” and “Is God my greatest good?” When God becomes my greatest good, when He is my most treasured possession—even above my family—then I can rest in my hope in God and know that I have nothing to fear.
The McKinney Family
(Mike, Keren, Reese, Liv, and Tessa)